Whether it’s a professional network, or your friends, or your family for that matter…you need to stop treating them like human jumper cables, only to be pulled out in the case of an emergency.
Every day I receive requests for assistance of some kind. An introduction to someone, some free advice, an investment, a request to tweet something, whatever. I am always happy to do this where it makes sense, unless I feel like I’m being treated like your jumper cables.
Being stored away in your trunk, gathering dust while awaiting that one moment where I might somehow benefit you isn’t exactly what I call a relationship. I also don’t want you pulling out those jumper cables (me) when you can help someone else with *their* emergency.
Ask my friends, I’ll do anything for them. But I can count those people on two hands. If you’re not one of those people then I’m probably going to expect something in return. At the very least I’m going to expect you to understand and not get your feelings hurt if I decline your request.
There are friendships, and there are transactions. I’m open to both, but social media seems to have confused a lot of people about what type of relationship it is that they really have with people.
Your friendly neighborhood jumper cable,
Matt Ridings - @techguerilla